How to promote self-esteem in teneengers.
If you have a teenage son, you may think that sometimes he lacks blood in his veins, that what he does is more out of obligation than what he really feels he should do. It is normal. Adolescence is a complicated stage, where adolescents are searching for their identity and this is not always an easy task for them. They often feel confused, but self-love is the fundamental basis for developing it, and as parents it is important to work on it to achieve good results.
The key to promoting self-esteem in adolescents is working on their self-esteem, since when they feel good they will do things well. It is important that all parents of adolescent boys do their part so that, in this way, they feel better about themselves, at home with the family and with the world around them.
Sometimes and without realizing it, there are many parents who strengthen their children’s self-esteem every day, whether by congratulating them on a job well done, showing them
We’re human, and there may also be days when parents inadvertently pay more attention to their egos or don’t realize they’re hurting their teens’ self-esteem. To work on self-love and self-esteem in adolescents, it is important to know some easy ways to do it every day.
How to work on self-esteem in teneengers: self esteem is the key.
• Be generous with compliments in a sincere way.
Sometimes children are not told enough about the things they do well and we focus only on reminding them of what they do wrong. It is important to change this chip and start congratulating children not only for achievements or results, but also for effort, including those times when they do not produce the desired results. In addition, it is important to encourage the boys to feel proud of themselves, to see that we trust them. Pride will make them shine from within, they will not need external approval so much to do things.
Teens with low self-esteem may feel uncomfortable accepting praise. If that is the case with your child, still praise him, and always be sincere. Children and adolescents of any age have an internal radar that knows when you mean things and when you don’t. If they think you are not being sincere in your praise, it is likely to have the opposite effect than intended.
• Criticize when necessary, but in a constructive way.
Never make a destructive criticism, to hurt or degrade their dignity. Your son doesn’t need that. Instead of saying something like: ‘How did you manage to get such a low grade on the exam?’ ‘What do you actually do when you study? You sure are wasting your time
You can say things like: ‘You almost got a better grade, with a little more concentration in your studies you will surely achieve a better result. Continue with your effort and improve on what you have failed to improve your skills.
Your teenagers need your example and your respect for them so that the criticism is constructive and they can really learn from their mistakes.
• Allows you to express your opinions
Teenagers have many opinions fluttering in their minds, but they need your permission to express them and your guidance so that they learn to do it correctly (with empathy and assertiveness). For this reason it is important that you include your children in daily family decisions and put some of their suggestions into practice. You can ask him if he likes the new sofa in the living room, if he would change its place, if he prefers one color or another to paint his bedroom…
They have a lot to learn along the way. Any daily moment is good for them to learn to be able to express their opinions, thus promoting mutual trust and healthy communication between parents and children.